• treating someone with respect has less than nothing to do with behaving “politely” towards them. it really doesn’t. thinking it does is what leads people to say shit like, “when people show up to class in sweats with their hair unbrushed, they are being disrespectful to everyone around them!” 
• and to people going about their whole lives politely treating people like crap and never realizing they’ve done something wrong
• it’s what allows polite old lady racists to go along their lives not being called out because hey, at least she was polite about it!
• and it’s what makes otherwise good-thinking people tell me I’m doing something wrong when I, totally respectfully, say, “hey, you’re being a fucking jerk,” to someone who is in fact being a fucking jerk

enjoli replied to your post: i painted my nails

I’m bad about that, too. Sometimes even if I go to the salon I get bored under the nail dryer and leave and smudge my stupid thumb doing something.

I may or may not have once showered too soon after a only-semi-dried salon manicure and smudged off the polish on every single one of my damn nails

corona—graminea replied to your post: I swear to god

Yes!! Whenever I call out someone for being a jerk my friends are like “Chris is being so judgmental!!1”

it’s the worst thing. people equate politeness (aka quietness, mildness, “polite” language, phrasing any criticisms meekly &indirectly) with respect, so if you react impolitely to an asshole, you are being disrespectful to them.

fun fact: I owe zero politeness to anybody who is being a jerk. another fun fact: I’m pretty sure most of our society’s boner for politeness, gentleness, friendliness, and never-ever-ever-being-hostile-ever-no-matter-what, is actually just a convenient way to make sure jerks get to keep stomping all over everybody else &being assholes without anybody being able to do anything more than maybe saying, “hey that is maybe not very respectful mister,” unless they feel like being even more judged &sanctioned than the actual jerk.

which, if you know me, is not a game I am interested in playing.

the next person in my vicinity who tries to say that, when someone is being a jerk to you, and you respond by openly disliking that person and/or saying “Hey, you’re a jerk,” you are somehow lowering yourself to the jerk’s level

is going to see something like this coming at them

it is not jerky to become angry or annoyed or pissy towards someone who is being an aggressively jerky asshole to you. it’s not. dear everyone, please get off your high goddamn horse and stop acting like it is. stop saying things like “don’t waste your energy” or “don’t bring yourself to their level”.

in fact, I find the whole idea that somehow the morally superior response to jerks is to pretend you aren’t bothered by them to be bizarre. how is tolerating jerkitude the non-jerky response? I’m not saying lose your shit every time a jerk is around, but seriously, letting off some steam with friends later, or even defending yourself from their assholery by rising to the occasion and not letting them walk all over you, is not somehow an assy response. it’s not.

just don’t

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(now i am not a nail polish person like y’all, i paint my toes mermaid blue and my nails black once a week or so, sally hanson hard as nails brand, i fuck up my nail polish too consistently to bother buying fancy brands and complicated colors)

but anyway i have been waiting ages for it to dry completely, because every time i skimp on waiting for my polish to dry i wind up royally fucking it up, like smudging off half the polish on at least one finger or toe, and

my digits are so. cold. you guys. freezing. also i am hungry for dinner AND i have to pee.

this has been a dedication to beauty post

someweretricksters:velocipedestrienne: pelinelin:

“I’m a middle-aged man now. I mean, someone, not working on the show but around the show, said something to me the other day. And I just said, ‘Well, that might be upsetting to you, but it doesn’t upset me. Just because you don’t want to f*** me any more, it doesn’t upset me.’” - Rupert Graves  (http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/news/article-921103-the-secret-life-of-rupert-graves.do)

this man is so unspeakably attractive

inslumber:

snesselfous:

thedailywhat

Photo of the Day: The Daily Show’s Jon Stewart (then Jon Leibowitz) as a young College of William & Mary student moshing at a Dead Kennedys show at Casablanca in Richmond, VA, c. 1982.

Photo by Irish Willis Peele.

[gawker.]

this might be the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen

danceswithfaeriesunderthemoon:

yellabonegoddesbrii:

SHE WAS NOWHERE NEAR HIS MOUTH 

omg.

this movie always &forever

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fuckyeahbulldog:

Rembrandt English Bulldog: Befuddled (by judetibay)